Compiled by San Diego Jewish World staff
As the Psychologist Sees You
Southwestern Jewish Press, June 15, 1956, Page 3
By Irving R. Stone, Psychological Consultant
Good in School, Bad At Home
The bewildered expression on the faces of many parents is caused by the Dr. Jeckle-Mr. Hyde character of their offspring. Not tht the double character of the children is caused by some strange potion. In fact, parents often are unable to account for the change in personality.
Parents frequently report that the children are “Good in School and Bad at Home.” They are at a loss to explain the change and give an aura to the school and to its staff. Unfortunately they can find nothing wrong at home to account for the children’s attitude when the leave the school situation and return to the comforts of the home. They consider the change as something mysterious.
Actually, there is nothing mysterious about any change in children. A little study of the home could account for any modification in behavior. It may be that there is an element of insecurity at home, such as sibling rivalry, arguments between parents, lack f interest by parents, or perhaps too much indulgence. There is no single reason to account for the change—any of these could be the cause.
Sometimes the situation is just the reverse. The child may be “the perfect angel” at home and be a demon at school. Here it may be a feeling that they cannot compete with the other children. It may even be that the work at school is so easy for the child that he becomes bored. When he returns to the home, he finds the satisfaction and comfort that he needs.
At other times the child may do very well at home but when the family visits other people, he cuts up and makes himself “obnoxious.” Perhaps he realizes that he must conform at home, through strict discipline but knows that the parents cannot exercise the same tight rein when visiting.
Children act in terms of the immediate situation and not just to be mean or bad. They react to a condition, just as we do, but in their own way. Adults rebel by swearing, drinking, gambling, finding fault with their jobs. They withdraw by silence, throwing themselves into solitary activities, or changing jobs. Children, because they have fear about their own ability to cope with the situation, have the same reaction, flight or fight. We may not always have the answer to the reason for the change in their behavior but we hould attempt to be understanding.
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With the Guardians
Southwestern Jewish Press, June 15, 1956, Page 3
In order to maintain domestic tranquility, our Guardian has asked us that neither his name nor that of his 7 year old’s be mentioned. The story: Father returns home thoroughly battered by the ordeals that beset one facing the commercial world – at the dinner table, he turns to his pride and joy and asks the inevitable question—the one leading question which every father must ask: “Well, son, what did we learn in school today?” The little fellow beamed back: “Today we learned about Richard Stands.” The father, not a bad student in his time, ruefully confessed that he had never heard of a Mr. Stands and then proceeds to ask for a further explanation. The young heir pushed his chair back from the inner table – stood at attention—and dramatically recited: “I pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States and to the republic for Richard Stands.”
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Ganted that the following has nothing whatsoever to do with Guardians, it is our opinion that the funniest line of the week was the result of a typographical error. On the front page of the May 25th issue of the Press, there appeared a list of names representing those individuals who were to appear at a ground-breaking ceremony. The name of LaMatt Cohu (of Convair) came out as LaMott Cohn.
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Famed world-traveller Ralph Hosenpud is busily making final preparations for his European hegira (leaving San Diego in about two weeks). It is a bit incredible, but as of this date, Ralph (who plans to spend approximately one year in Europe) has been unable to obtain hotel accommodations in Vienna. This may not appear serious to some, but failure to obtain adequate reservations in advance will necessarily entail considerable rerouting and modifications of well-prepared plans. However, Doyle Kahn is of the opinion that Uncle Ralph will wind up buying the Siedenhof Hotel in Vienna to make sure there will be no complications.
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Flash – Winners of the $5,000 in the fabulous Guardian drawing held June 6 were Eddie Bland (his ticket) – Eddie Cantor—Doug and Al De Sure—Herman Sarfan—Harry Snyder – Yale Kahn – Jim Dowling (details in next issue). The Hebrew Home for the Aged will receive 100 percent of all profits derived from this drawing.
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Letters to the Editor
Southwestern Jewish Press, June 15, 1956, Page 3
Julia Kaufman, Assistant Editor
Southwestern Jewish Press
We thank you for welcoming the National Association for the Advancemetn of Colored People to the Plaza building, and the beautiful plant, and also mentioning the Association in your column, “Press Notes.”
For almost a half-century the NAACP has been in the forefront of the civil rights struggle and has been responsible for destroying many of the barriers depriving Negro and other minority groups of equality of opportunity. Much however remains to be done, and we have a long way to go before all of man’s inalienable civil rights are secured for our citizens, regardless of race, color or religion.
Civil Rights is an All-American issue, and it is not a question of Democrat or Republican, nor is it a matter of North or South. It is up to every individual citizen to help win the battle, to make the promise of the Declaration of Independence come true.
This is a real challenge of the American way of life. We hope the San Diego Branch of the NAACP can make it possible for democracy to prevail in all areas of our community life. We are interested in equal employment opportunities, adequate and non-discriminatory housing and justice in our courts.
The NAACP needs the moral and financial support of every democratic-minded individual and group if we are to achieve this goal. NAACP membership is open to anyone believing in these principles.
We are glad to be your neighbor
Sincerely,
Ruth A. Green, Pres.
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To the Editor
Southwest Jewish Press
We were recently shown the nearly completed plan of the new Jewish Community Center building and your last issue contained a description of the main features of the new structure.
We are happy to see the long dream of a Community Center finally being realized, and we wish to express our admiration for those who labored hard and long to carry this ambitious project from its inception to its actual construction.
We appreciate that a great deal of thought has gone into the planning of this new Center to make sure that all present and future needs of the Jewish community have been adequately provided for. We understand that about 10 percent of the Jewish residents of San Diego have actually been consulted on what features should be embodied in the layout and that outside consultants were called in to advise in the planning.
It is for that reason that I am very disappointed to find the omission of one very important feature of a Jewish Center: a Jewish library. To me, at least, it is inconceivable to have a Jewish center without a Jewish library, as I feel that the Center should be not only a physical but also an intellectual center for the Jewish people of San Diego. We Jews have always shown great attachment to books, and we have actually come to be known as Am ha-Sefer,” the “People of the Book.” Our greatest accomplishments have been in the field of books and the study of books has carried us through the most difficult periods in our history.
I do not mean to deprecate the importance of other features in the layout of the Center, such as club rooms, arts and crafts room, gymnasium, etc., but I feel that a Jewish library should be given high priority. It has been suggested that one of the larger meeting rooms could also be used as a library. I believe, however, and I am sure others will agree that a library should be planned first. Such a library could also be used as a meeting room on special occasions, if necessary.
I hope that it is not too late to have the serious omission corrected, and that a library will be included in the first phase of construction as one of the very essential needs of the Jewish community.
– David M. Zwanziger
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Press Notes
Southwestern Jewish Press, June 15, 1956, Page 3
By Julia Kaufman
The soul of a journey is liberty, perfect liberty, to think, feel, do just as one pleases.” — Wm Hazlitt.
Rush, Rush, Rush … then calm. Suddenly there was nothing to do but enjoy two weeks of come-what-may. Everything favored complete relaxation … the clear starlit night, the full moon, and the steady flight which gave one the feeling of remaining motionless while heavenly bodies floated by. Seeing my two brothers at the New York airport took the edge of the dampness of our landing. How can it be so beautiful above the clouds and so rainy below? Naturally my slicker was carefully tucked away and inaccessible. (Mac called me a pessimist when I suggested carrying it.)
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… Being a former New Yorker with a penchant for nostalgia, I lost no time in seeing close relatives and friends and lapping up the compliments. (Who wants the truth on a vacation?) In true Las Vegas fashion, I squeezed in a show whenever possible … “The Diary of Ann Frank,” “Damn Yankees, “ “Cat on a Hot Tin Roof,” “Janus, “ “The Pajama Game, “ and “The Most Happy Fella.” … Of the musicals, I enjoyed “Happa Fella” best, and of the plays, “The Diary.”
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“Down with the Old and up with the New” is the song of the Big City. Magnificent new buildings have been ereceted on sites where old buildings once stood and housing projects have taken the place of slum areas. But I was appalled by the dirty buses, the milling jaywalkers, inconsiderate drivers, dreary subways and the littered streets in congested areas. New Yorkers themselves, despite the move to the suburbs, haven’t changed. Waiters still advise yo on what to eat (our waiter at Lindy’s asked about the del Coronado Hotel where he once served), and the cabbies know all and tell all with absolutely no encouragement from the riders. It was cheering to hear the man under the street grating on 42nd St. singing “Oh, What a Beautiful Day.”
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…A visit to the United Nations was a must on my calendar. I found th U.N. buildings, which rise from the banks of the East River, impressive but cold. The bloodless figures in the U.N. murals sharply contrasted with the friendly young people from all nations who hurried through the corridors. In one of the dining rooms we met Dr. Ralph Bunche. He remembered us from his San Diego visit and we promised to convey his regards to the friends he made here.
It is true that a great amount of verbiage flows in the United Nations Conference Rooms. However, we consider that the loudest voice in the debating chambers is less harmful than the smallest weapon of war; the United Nations, in our opinion, remains our last foothold of rationality. Breaking the language barrier, it seems to me, is as important as breaking the sound barrier.
This I must tell you … My husband (your editor) was the most prominent (?) speaker at the United Nations meeting of the Security Council, debating the British Resolution on the Israel-Arab Armistice. In a seat reserved for the Press, and wearing earphones which shut out all sounds including his own voice, he became impatient with one of the delegates and in a voice which could be heard in San Diego whispered in my ear, “Boy, is he laying it on thick!” Everyone in the Council glared at him, and one row of delegates stood up to take a look. One of the functionaries came clear across the floor to remind him (as though he needed it), that he must be more careful when wearing the earphones.
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…. A change from the tall buildings and scurrying pedestrians was our week-end visit to Cape Cod. It was my first long train trip in years and I was impressed by the air conditioning and the reclining seats. Viewed through the picture windows, the passing scenery with its lush green fields and many rivers was a delight to the eyes. It is a small wonder that the Cape draws so many New Yorkers at vacation time.
I returned to New York full of memories… apple blossoms…lilacs… buttercups.. and the dandelion curls by pretty niece taught me how to make.
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(Missing Husband)
Southwestern Jewish Press, June 15, 1956, Page 3
A woman appeared at the Bureau of Missing Persons and reported her husband had vanished into thin air six and a half months previously.
“Good Heavens, woman,” exclaimed the officer, “why did you wait so long to report this?”
“Well, she admitted, “the first week my heart hurt me too much, thinking he just didn’t love me. The second week my pride hurt me too much, thinking he’s probably run off with another woman. And for the last six months my conscience has hurt me too much, thinking what a whale of a good time I’ve been having.”
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(Tear-jerkers)
Southwestern Jewish Press, June 15, 1956, Page 3
Don’t praise a dramatic actor because he brings tears to your eyes. An onion will do the same – Heinrich Heine.
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Abraham Friedman Named Administrative Assistant to JEWB Armed Services Director
Southwestern Jewish Press, June 15, 1956, Page 4
NEW YORK – Appointment of Abraham Friedman, veteran group worker, as administrative assistant to the director of JWB’s Armed Services Division, was announced this month by S.S. Gershovitz, executive vice president of the National Jewish Welfare Board (JWB). For the past four years Mr. Friedman has been serving as USO-JWB area director in San Diego. He takes over his post on August 15th.
A former USO-JWB director in Tomah, Wisc., Mr. Friedman has been actively involved in a pre-induction project for prospective inductees in San Diego, where he directed a research study in vocational guidance and military advisement (“Operation Vogma”) which has attracted national attention. He ha been USO staff conference chairman for Southern California, and has recently been serving in San Diego on the Exectuive Board of the USO Advisory Council.
Before coming into Armed Services work with JWB, Mr. Friedman was for many years associated professionally with Jewish Community Centers in New Jersey, Pennsylvania and New York. He has served as chairman of the group work section of the National Association of Social Workers in San Diego and as vocational guidance chairman of the B’nai B’rith Lasker Lodge.
Mr. Friedman is a graduate of Temple University, Philadelphia, and served in the U.S. Armed Forces, in World War II from 1942 to 1946.
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Local Leader Takes Brandeis Camp Post
Southwestern Jewish Press, June 15, 1956, Page 4
SANTA SUSANA, Calif. – Albert Hutler, executive director of United Jewish Welfare, with offices at 333 Plaza, has been named San Diego chairman on the national committee sponsoring the sixth annual “Weekend of Living Judaism” for community leaders from all over the United States at the Brandeis Camp Institute in Santa Susana, Calif.
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Groucho Marxmanship
Southwestern Jewish Press, June 15, 1956, Page 4
Hollywood Rabbi Max Nussbaum recently told Groucho Marx he has quite a few actors in his congregation. “I’m surprised,” observed the NBC quizmaster, “that you allow so much ham in your Temple.”
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Dining An Unusual Treat At “Torano’s”
Southwestern Jewish Press, June 15, 1956, Page 4
One of the better eating establishments in the area is a warm, tastefully decorated restaurant called “Torano’s” which is situated overlooking the ocean on the southern end of La Jolla Boulevard.
While the diner relaxes in “Torano’s” atmosphere (which can be more or less appropriately described as modern-continental), he is privileged to indulge in a number of artfully prepared dinner and a la carte selections. Master of the cuisine is Chef Marco, an Austrian who was previously chief chef in the MGM executive dining room and has just recently prepared special feasts for Grace Kelly, her Prince, and Clark Gable. Chef Marco will be happy to prepare your special dishes (including Jewish dishes) provide tht you give him a little advance notice to scare up those special ingredients.
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