By Michael R. Mantell, Ph.D.
SAN DIEGO — In the midst of the formidable challenges that we’re grappling with, especially since October 7th, it’s high time for a profound, spiritual awakening. This week’s parasha, Vayigash, unfolds with captivating lessons that beckon us to elevate our lives to a whole new level.
Drawing inspiration from the exemplary character of Judah, the first to carry the title “Jew,” let’s imbibe in the spirit of this week’s Torah reading. Let’s become guarantors for one another, extending our love and support unconditionally. Regardless of external appearances, let us prioritize the safety, well-being, and love for every member of our community.
By embodying the virtues exemplified by Judah, we can forge a resilient and compassionate community that stands unwavering against the forces of hatred. Together, let’s cultivate an environment where every Jew feels not only secure but also cherished and enveloped in love. The length of a beard or the presence of a kippah should not define us. We are all part of the same tapestry, and each Jew is precious.
Consider Judah, the individual who introduced the concept of being a guarantor for fellow Jews. This notion has become ingrained in the collective consciousness of our Jewish community. Regardless of our geographical locations, we share in the joys and sorrows of our fellow Jews. When a member of our community faces trouble or is in need, it’s common for strangers to come to their aid. The countless stories of Jews helping Jews illustrate a unique sense of responsibility—a commitment to one another that goes beyond mere acts of kindness to strangers. So, let’s rise above the challenges and weave a tapestry of resilience, compassion, and boundless love. Together, we can redefine what it truly means to be a united and compassionate community.
This week’s parasha dropped a “truth bomb” that’s still echoing in the hearts of every Jew: we’re all in this together. Judah’s moves weren’t just ancient history; they set the stage for a principle that’s as relevant now as it was back then. When one of us feels heat, a united community senses the pain.
So, let’s crank up the accountability dial. When a fellow Jew is facing challenges or could use a helping hand, it’s showtime. This isn’t your run-of-the-mill kindness to strangers – it’s a family affair. We’ve got each other’s backs, no questions asked.
When a fellow member of our united kehillah hits a rough patch, we don’t just offer support – we become the backbone of their resilience. That’s the kind of commitment that turns a community into a rock-solid family. Judah would give us a nod of approval. Let’s do this, together.
As we conclude Chanukah, I’m reminded of a presentation from Charlie Harary who discussed the inspiration he found in his Holocaust surviving grandparents. They shared, “A Jew never fights with the sword; he defends with the sword. But, a Jew fights with light.”
In the face of the darkest chapter in history—Hitler’s tyranny—it wasn’t vengeance that prevailed; it was the luminosity of building families, aiding one another, and embracing joy. Harary teaches that, “We fight with light.” When they tried to snuff out our spirits, we responded by letting our souls blaze even brighter. We didn’t hide. We shined brightly.
Hanukkah, beyond its historical triumph, embodies a timeless symbol—the candle. We are not just a victorious nation; we are the bearers of light, morality, and ethics. We stand as guardians of the vulnerable, champions of the poor, healers of the sick, and builders after tragedy. When darkness looms, we don’t cower; we ignite a candle.
Let’s embrace this ethos. Let’s embody the force that doesn’t merely confront challenges but illuminates them with the brilliance of our souls. In every trial, let’s be the living testament to resilience, the radiant light that refuses to be extinguished.
Along similar lines, I came upon Rabbi Akiva’s fable of the fox and the fish.
In the face of the Roman decree, the Talmud recounts a remarkable moment between Rabbi Akiva and the Roman official Pappus Ben Yehuda. Picture this: Rabbi Akiva is fearlessly teaching Torah to his students, undeterred by the threat of death. Pappus, bewildered, asked, “Aren’t you afraid of the government? Why risk your life like this?”
Akiva responded with a parable that resonates for us today. He says,
“Imagine a fox by a river, observing fish evading fishermen’s nets. The fox proposes, ‘Why not join me on dry land, where we can live as our ancestors did?’ The fish, wise in their aquatic habitat, reply, ‘You’re an idiot. If we fear in the water, our source of life, how much more on dry land, a place where we’ll surely die!’”
Akiva drives the point home: “It’s the same with us. Studying Torah may bring life or death. But if we cease studying, Judaism dies. The Jewish people lose their essence.”
This story isn’t just about survival; it’s a beacon of inspiration. Akiva’s unwavering commitment to Torah symbolizes our resilience. The pursuit of knowledge, even in the face of adversity, isn’t merely an option—it’s our lifeline. It’s the heartbeat of Judaism.
So, let’s channel the spirit of Akiva. Let’s embrace the Torah, not just as a guide but as the very breath of our existence. In studying, we don’t just survive; we thrive, and Judaism continues to flourish. In every challenge, let our commitment to learning be our source of strength, ensuring the eternal flame of our heritage never dims.
Amidst life’s challenges, especially the antisemitism we are currently experiencing, a timeless lesson echoes through the Jewish perspective: “What can we learn from this?”
It’s about embracing the “Joseph approach” from prisoner to position of power—finding meaning in every twist and turn with unwavering faith in Hashem. Joseph saw positive meaning in everything, and yes, even in the face of current adversities we can too.
Rather than dwelling on our suffering, let’s shift our focus to the opportunities this period has gifted us. It’s a chance to draw closer, to reevaluate what truly matters in our lives, and to enrich ourselves with meaningful relationships and non-material values. For many, this has become a season of personal growth, an opportunity to cultivate acceptance and view life through the lens of “what can be learned” rather than clinging to frustration and demanding that life be different.
In adversity, we find resilience. Through challenges, we uncover opportunities for growth and connection. So, let’s navigate these times with a positive spirit, embracing the lessons that can shape us into stronger, more compassionate individuals.
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Michael R. Mantell, Ph.D., prepares a weekly D’var Torah for Young Israel of San Diego, where he and his family are members. They are also active members of Congregation Adat Yeshurun. He may be contacted via michael.mantell@sdjewishworld.com